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In one pretty high-profile case, Redditors helped an adopted child in Denver track down his birth parents.
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But not everyone agrees with the notion that adoption requires its own special rules. Rita Taddonio, director of the Adoption Resource Center at Spence-Chapin Adoption Services, the agency that facilitated my adoption, thinks that regulation is the wrong way to go. It's a truism for sure, but the Internet is kind of unstoppable.“I don’t think it’s realistic frankly to say that you’re going to be able to regulate social media and the Internet,” she said. “If people are intent on finding somebody, they’re going to be able to find them. I tend to think that when we try and regulate something, people find ways around it—in history, throughout time, no matter what we’re talking about.”Certainly, she agrees with the suggestion that laws need to be changed to allow for better accessibility to information, but ultimately, Taddonio believes that the best way to deal with these issues is by discussing the idea of adoption from the very beginning Then everything else, including the proper approach to utilizing the Internet for search purposes, will fall into place.“Adoption is just another way of forming a family,” Taddonio said. “I just think the key thing for a relationship with a parent and a child is communication so that if they find somebody or if they’re found, they’re going to be talking to you about it.” For her, the Internet doesn’t pose any extraordinary issues, but is rather just one more factor that can be made a little less stressful through conversation and normalization.So it seems that whether this confluence is its own beast is up for debate. What isn’t up for debate is that adoption has changed profoundly over the last twenty years, at least partially in response to the Internet behemoth. Where we go from here is dependent on the individuals involved—biological families, adoptees, adoptive families, agencies, and so on—but it’s clear that honesty, accessibility, and general openness are here to stay.Search and potential reconnection has become such a speedy process that there may be little time for reflection.